So for my 2nd post, I decided to touch a nerve with both males and females......i'm gonna take on the topic of "double standards" as they are seen from the point of view of both males and females. Yup, gettin a lil anxious already to see whats about to transpire aren't you? Well, you should be. Of course, the way i choose to display these differences may be humorous, but keep in mind that i'm just keeping it real...based on my experiences and the experiences of others...
Male: Its alright for me to see someone else while in a relationship, but its not ok for her to have male friends.
Female: Its alright for me to have a guy best friend and keep our encounters a secret, but its not ok for him to have a female best friend at all.
Male: Its alright for me to refer to another female as "baby", but its not ok for her to allow another guy to refer to her as such.
Female: Its alright for me to allow a man who is interested to wine and dine me, but its not ok for my significant other to so much as chill at mcdonalds with a female coworker.
Male: Its alright for me to date more than one female at a time, but its not ok for her to even look at another man.
Female: Its alright for me to question everything he does, but its not ok for him to want to know where i've been.
Male: Its alright for me to go to a strip club with the fellas, but its not ok for her to go see male dancers with her girls.
Female: Its alright for me to go out of town and not call my man while im gone, but its not ok for him to not answer my calls when he goes out of town.
Male: Its alright for me to not want sex from her, but its not ok for her to deny me sex.
Female: Its alright for me to ignore him when im upset, but its not ok for him to cut me off when he's upset.
Male: Its alright for me to spend the night at a female's place, but its not ok for her to have male company at all at hers.
Female: Its alright for me to tell my girls about what hes doing wrong, but its not ok for him to put me on blast with his fellas.
Now obviously, this is just a sample list of double standards most of us have encountered. Don't take them personal, but if you do, then you must be guilty,lol. But seriously...are any of these acceptable in your opinion.....why or why not??
--This Is Me.
I agree with you that there's a "Double Standard", for both of the sexes and sad to say but in my life I have experienced some of these standards. It seems to me that a relationship built on trust and honesty, these double standards don't apply because one's perspective isn't that of "it's just alright for me but not you". If everyone treated there significant other as they wish to be treated, (whether they're in the line of sight or out of it),life, love, and happiness would not be so one-sided.
ReplyDeleteI would definitely say its ok for me to deny him sex bc men normally want it more often than women..sometimes way too often. They wanna wake u up outta ur sleep or try to do it when they know ur mad at them.. On the other hand if my man denies me sex we have a problem cause if we havent had sex all week and ur tellin me no, either i'm not satisfying u or ur getting it from someone else.
ReplyDeleteA lot of these hit home for me....both male and female side. I think that it's okay for us to think that they are okay when we commit them, because we think we can do no wrong in a relationship. But when it's done to us, then we are ready to tar and feather in the middle of town square. Once we get over that type of behavior, then relationships would be better, and most importantly, last longer.
ReplyDeleteJust my opinion though.